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This meant the Vietnamese pickings, if any, were slim. Outside of the homogeneity of my environment, catching feelings for white guys became something of a habit.
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So, I decided to play the game that was given to me: If white men wanted Asian hypersexuality and submissiveness from me, then I would give it to them, but only in return for the symbolic power and privilege that I desired.
For many years, I tried to justify my complicity by cherry-picking a couple of classically European features.
Then, I would tell people that I simply preferred tall guys with light brown hair or green eyes. Here, it was impossible to attribute the laughable whiteness of my romantic history to a lack of suitable bachelors of color.
This weird attraction to white men was rooted in my hyperawareness of whiteness as a standard of beauty and higher social status. As I look back at my own fraught romantic history, I subconsciously believed that I would Wife want casual sex Holts Summit ever survive in this world if I found and married a white man.
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I could not possibly excuse myself any longer for perpetuating racial and gender hierarchies, even if it meant risking the safety and legitimacy of my identity as someone who belongs in the United States and at UC Im a top looking for mature Mammoth Lakes. But they were right in suggesting, albeit inadvertently, that I do not need to engage with normative whiteness to be a full and happy person with a rich romantic and sexual life.
I do not need to repress my true ethnic origins nor do I need to play the role of a hypersexualized, feminine Asian woman in order to know that I have the right to be a part of different social spaces.
Laura Nguyen writes the Tuesday column on sex.